Something I hadn't considered:
Well, I had considered it, in the sense that I know what I want for my bouquet, and I have actually even practiced making it (well, not with the flowers I want, but with some other flowers that Will brought home one day, chosen by his lovely daughter.)
But I hadn't considered it, in the sense that I will be walking down the aisle accompanied by my two lovely sons.
Lots of books and articles counsel against this. They say that the symbolism of being "given away" by your children is bound to lead them to feel like you're abandoning them, or choosing your new spouse over them. And I think that could be true if I were doing something like the traditional father-daughter dealio, where they walk me down the aisle, then give me a hug and Will a handshake and go sit down. That would actually be pretty horrifying.
Instead, Will's kids will be with him, and mine are going to walk with me, and then all six of us will stay together for the ceremony. The symbolism has nothing to do with giving me away, and everything to do with the fact that even though Will and I are the ones getting married, the boyz and I are a package deal.
However, that brings us back to the bouquet. If I'm holding hands with two kids, I won't really be able to hold a bouquet. We could walk arm in arm, which would leave my hands free, but I'm not sure I want to do that; it seems a little cheesy and not really like something we would do in real life. It would sure be cheaper not to have a bouquet, but it's one of those wedding things that I've always pictured a certain way, so I'm not sure I'm ready to give it up.
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